Let’s hope not. Over the past few decades, numerous studies have concluded that spanking isn’t the best or most effective way to discipline a child successfully.
But when your kids misbehave, don’t replace spanking with yelling. New research shows that screaming loudly at children may also harm them. So what can parents do when their kids become unruly, especially with the summer vacation months upon us and children spending more time at home?
Tactics that don’t work
According to one large study, 63 percent of American parents admitted they had used verbal aggression -- including swearing and insults -- against their children at least once.
But yelling and spanking are both ineffective because children learn to ignore them after a while. Instead of making children responsible for their actions, physical or verbal abuse simply increases their feelings of aggression.
Parents often complain that they "have to yell" for their child listen to them. If you feel that way, it might be that your child isn’t sensing the difference between the happy, proud parent and the upset version until you bring it up a notch. Catch your children being good and constantly comment on it during the day (called "time in") is a great way to help children learn what you expect of them and lets them know you notice their good behavior.
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So what can parents do when their kids become unruly, especially with the summer. medical Autoclave
ReplyDeleteIf you click on the link provided under "READ MORE HERE:", you can read the full article, which provides tips for what does work. Mastering new parenting skills requires integrity, practice and time. Children also require time and practice to learn new behaviors in response to newly implemented parenting skills. Children are less experienced and may make mistakes. Parents can learn to be gentle with themselves and their child(ren) as both learn how to engage in healthy family dynamics.
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